Give tips on how to settle family disputes effectively. Offer advice on taking turns speaking. Use a timer. Allow others a set amount of time to ask questions. Begin to encourage each party (not just one) to take responsibility for what is happening in the dispute. Suggest changes; have both parties recommend changes and state what they need in the form of a request. Give examples such as, “I have a request that so-and-so not play loud music between 8 and 9 p.m. when I am trying to study.